So a few birthdays ago Sam and Charlotte bought me a cooking voucher which I never used. It expired but Ann practically suggested I ask if waitrose could extend it. They did and instead of sitting at home stressing about work I got to cook this middle eastern feast. Thanks loves xx.
Celebratory drinks after seeing the amazing Warsan Shire, Ribka Sidhatu and other fantastic poets at the British library.
Impromtu meze in Angel post ‘The Frida Kahlo of Penge West’. Yes it was called that!
Lovely day discovering Dalston, including this artichoke flower with neon fronds in the Dalston curve garden.
This struggler (read old uni friend) came to visit leading to excellent tapas, struggles (me), and intellectual conversation late into the night. Excellent stuff.
Another old uni friend cooked me an amazing meal. Great food and a catch up in the sun, pottering around in his ‘mini garden’.
Today has been up and down. Last week I found some jasmine growing on some railings in tufnell park. I picked a sprig this morning because I love the smell and looking at the delicate flowers reminds me there is beauty even on grey days.
This evening I went out for dinner with an old friend and I feel content after a very pleasant evening. And yes that is a plate of snails. They were bloody lovely.
Resilience can be defined as the ability to bounce back. And boy, have I had to bounce back over the last month since I blogged. Yes, I went for the interview but decided that I didn’t want the job, even though it was pretty close to perfect. They also decided that they would give the job to someone else that could commit from October. I couldn’t. (Black History Month at school!) I started a demanding temp job as a telephone charity fundraiser and was ‘let go’ for not meeting targets. Add to this, a personal disagreement with a close friend, a few sleepless nights and the fear of financial instability rearing its head again. I felt emotionally bruised and physically exhausted.
What can you do when it seems like its all going wrong?
Re-evaluate, learn and move on.
Part of my interview was to coach my potential boss. It wasn’t my most fluid coaching session and this made me realise that I need to build coaching others regularly back into my life. I have had several great coaching sessions, some of which I have been paid for (yay!). Not only am I improving my practice, I am helping others as well. Karma- I hope you are listening!
The personal disagreement involved a young man and I recognised my ego was hurt. My ego was the one that was angry and felt slighted. I am starting to put into practice the adage “Life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you react to it”. I am confident that I can resolve this situation in time and in the meanwhile recognise that I am ready for new situations and persons to come into my life.
Being fired was the straw that broke the camel’s back. I need financial stability and was willing to do a stressful job in order to fufil that need. That weekend was hard but I am lucky to have lots of friends to support me. I met up with a friend to go to the Geffreye Museum, had afternoon tea there and ended the day with several friends watching X factor and eating dahl. I booked a coaching session with my wonderful coach Shaline and am going start again.
I wrote about this particular week because I want to inspire you and give you hope.
Yes, shitty things will happen, but you can make good things come out of them.
Recognise your emotions for what they are.
Have faith that good things will come to you.
If you learn something from a defeat- it isn’t a loss.