Resilience- how to keep on bouncing back.


Pronunciation: /rɪˈzɪlɪəns/

Definition of resilience


[mass noun]

  • 1the ability of a substance or object to spring back into shape; elasticity:nylon is excellent in wearability, abrasion resistance and resilience
  • 2the capacity to recover quickly from difficulties; toughness:the often remarkable resilience of so many British institutions
Last October during Black History Month I gave an assembly to the Sixth Form on resilience. I used the example of Sean ‘Puffy’ Combs as an individual that had demonstrated his ability to bounce back from many a negative situation. My main point for the assembly was that during Black History Month we hear many stories of great individuals, and that all these stories are at their core about hope and resilience which is applicable to all of us, all year round.  

Recently I have been thinking a lot about resilience and how do we bounce back. I applied for role that I could contribute a lot too and that I really believed in. I had applied for this role two years ago and was unsuccessful and on the back of that went and invested in a course that would provide me with further knowledge for this role.

Nonetheless, a good interview and some feedback later, I was unsuccessful in getting this role. And this is where resilience comes in. We all know that the definition of resilience is the capacity to recover quickly from difficulties, but how do we keep bouncing back when our ego’s are bruised?

There are two ways you can help yourself to bounce back:

1. Acknowledge that this is a delay not a denial. 
I read this on a Daily Love post recently and this really struck me. I instantly felt like a weight was off my shoulders. I am experiencing a delay, and like all delays it is pretty frustrating. But a delay does not not mean you will not ever reach your final destination be it a new career, a new love interest, greater health etc. In other sphere’s of my life I remind myself ‘Rome wasn’t built in a day’ and I guess I need to apply this to my career dreams as well.

2. Try, try, and try again
This is the hard part. I realised that because I had been so caught up in applying and interviewing for this role and then subsequently being unsuccessful, I had also stopped taking the steps that would lead to my overall goal of getting my dream job. I need to go back to the drawing board and continue my research on social justice organisations. I need to reset my timeframe to September. And I need to continue to believe that I deserve a great job and that I will achieve one. 

Throw away your fears and continue to aim high.