Confirmation

At around 8.30am this morning, through my sleep I heard a tapping noise.

It went away. I thought:

1) Why am I so anal about sleep – then thought this needs more time and energy than i can give this morning!

2) There is a reason why I was woken up early, even though it is not apparent right now. The Universe wants me up and about.

So I sat down, checked my emails and thought about last night.

Last night I went to a coaching meet up for a talk on career change. The facilitator was great and I had some important realisations

1) Your ideas about your career and what you want to achieve moves over time

For example, in primary school I wanted to be a newsreader, by the time I was near the end of secondary school, I wanted to be a teacher or a psychologist. During my degree, I wanted to work in getting more young people into university and/ or helping the world to become a better place.  The theme of helping others in society has remained, but during my masters I thought I could achieve this by joining the civil service. 
I’ve worked in a variety of roles but my core theme of helping others and society has remained. Now I want a career that allows me to grow, make an impact on society and also pays well. 

2) Who helps you and who hindered you?

I have been very lucky in that I have always had lots of support and encouragement from teachers, friends and my parents in both my academic journey and my working career. No one has tried to hinder me.

But I have.

People in the group shared who or what had hindered their career progress- teachers, career advisors, family, risk of financial insecurity and so on. I realised that I was the only person that had held me back in my career. Its really hard to admit and I need to work on how can I make sure I no longer hold myself back.

But this was not the point of this blog post.

Confirmation is.

The facilitator last night asked the group if they believed in signs/ intuition or if they went on their gut feeling. I have a mother that sees signs in everything and after reading the The Secret and The Power, I guess I do too. At the beginning of  the session we were asked if we were coaching, i gave a half hearted answer, because to my mind, if i am coaching, i would be doing it successfully ergo I would be doing it on a regular basis and getting paid for it. (He contradicted this but that is not important here.)

Halfway through the session, I checked my phone. I had one text message, from a friend that had I had recently helped, or should i say coached for a job application. She got the job.


And that was it. Confirmation. Confirmation that I am a great coach. Confirmation that I do this well. Confirmation that if i want to, I can do more coaching and be paid for it. Confirmation that i have a very high impact rate. So far, everyone that has had a coaching session with me has made a positive change in their lives. And those that have had more than one coaching session with me have made a significant, positive change. 

So what confirmation are you looking for? What signs are you ignoring?

I’d love to hear your thoughts, please comment below. xxx

JUST LIKE STARTING OVER

Special guest post by Chiara Valente, founder L’Arabesque Events.


What happens when you realize that a part of your life is over and that you have to literally start from zero –again? When you realize that you are already 34, you’ve lost your job – a job you liked a lot – and that after many years of hard work your hands are empty, you have built nothing of importance in your life?

Let’s admit it, you feel like a real loser, there’s no better definition for those feelings than that! And that was the way I was feeling one year ago, and at the beginning it was really hard. In addition, it seemed impossible to find another job, as hard as I tried, and I was very worried about my future….
Then my sister decided to open a shop. I started wondering: “why can’t I start my own business too? Why should I keep on waiting for someone else to give me a chance, I must be my own chance!”.

So I started looking on the web and I found that there were courses to become a wedding planner. I am a true romantic, with a deep love of art so I thought: “this might be ideal for me!” My friends were very encouraging of this career move, in fact almost everyone I spoke to said “Great! It really sounds like it’s the right job for you!”.


So I attended some courses, I read many books and spent hundreds of hours searching on the internet, but theory and practice are not exactly the same thing, are they? When the moment arrived to start taking action, I felt quite helpless and the whole plan seemed too big for me. I basically knew what to do, but not how to do it… I spent most of last summer feeling discouraged and frustrated. Luckily, thanks to the help of my family and friends, who had passed the word around of my new venture, I got in touch with the managers of a wedding location, who gave me the opportunity to work with them to a couple of events.  I also found my first clients -a young couple who asked me to help planning their wedding next summer! My first customers!!! What a responsibility, but what a joy!!!


A huge amount of  help to make this change has come from the web. Not only as a simple container of information, but as the place where I found real human support and friendship! First of all Michelle, who gave me precious advice and encouragement when I needed it most. Then I found a real family in the online community created by a great wedding planner and extraordinary woman, Silvia Bargagni, aka Magnolia WP, who, in a world of people thinking only to their interests, firmly believes that cooperation, mutual help, sharing knowledge, ideas and advice are the best way to work, improve and grow… and all the wonderful and enthusiastic people she is gathering around her are the demonstration she is right! And it is surrounding myself in this positive atmosphere that brings me more serenity and the will to face with more determination the new challenges in this job and all the difficulties it implies. 

So my advice is: surround yourself with positive people, who support and help you, because the moments of fear and discouragement can always happen, but if you have the right people near you, these moments can be faced and overcome!


Chiara Valente, L’Arabesque Events Wedding Planner


PS: and if you’re wondering: “the title reminds me of one of John Lennon’s songs”… well, yes, it’s not a coincidence. 🙂

I asked Chiara to write this post as I personally found her story inspiring and as this is a space dedicated to positive change, an ideal place to share with like minded people who are not willing to settle for a unfulfilled life. Please share with us what you  think of Chiara’s journey below.