3. I watched the first of the new series of Misfits, followed by Gossip Girl.
Today I am thankful for my Dad. I made no other plans for today except for hanging out with him, but whilst I had forgotten that I’d said we would go to Sports Direct to sort out Gambia clothing, my Dad had not. And now I have several pairs of what he assures me are ‘nice and cool’ shorts/ ‘quarter pants’; some walking shoes ‘that give you some good grip when you go to Africa’; and some socks. And after we went back to his and had a nice cup of tea and biscuits.
I am aware that I have not blogged for the last few days and need to make up for it now before the weekend zips past.
On Thursday I went to a recording of the Graham Norton Show courtesy of Devina. It was a really nice treat so I am thankful for friends like Devina that hook me up. 🙂
Last night I had a lovely meal with Devina and friends and it was a nice, chilled end to the working week. I was also very thankful last night when I spotted a small shelving unit at the bottom of the stairs to my flats. I have recently changed my room around and needed a bedside table- and voilà, now I have one. I think I might make it into a mini project and paint it maybe.
You know those days when you have a good day and then something a bit rubbish happens and your previously okay mood sinks a bit? And then you wake up the next day feeling tired and frustrated. Yesterday was one of those days. So this morning I packed The Power as an antidote and started reading the section on relationships. The book argues that we must give out love to all of those around us, even enemies so that we can receive love back to us. It suggested thinking about things that we love/ loved about those that we are annoyed with/ hateful towards and so generate good feeling towards that person and therefore create love for ourselves and that person. Sorry if this isn’t particularly coherent.
I struggled with this notion it has to be said. I thought of someone that is annoying me quite a lot (my neighbour that complains about our flat) and I tried to come up with things that I loved/ liked about them but struggled. First I thought ‘Well do I feel safer knowing he is below?’, and no I don’t, then I thought ‘Well if he can hear all he says he can hear then if there was a burglary/ struggle, he definitely would hear’. Not exactly the most positive analysis. Hmmmm.
So anyway I came home and was feeling a bit bleurgh so I decided to have a bit of ‘me’ time, switched on my computer and the LSE blog post on education & social mobility caught my eye; which led me an hour later to the Action for Happiness website. I found there an action plan that I am going start part of when I feel less frustrated and grumpy; but most importantly one of their suggestions was to find three good things everyday. So for you regular readers, on the days when I feel mean and ungrateful and woefully human, I will instead write three good things that have happened to me.
1. This morning I saw a pair of jays. They were gathering something from the top of the Ivy/ bushes and it was the flash of bright blue that caught my eye. I like seeing new wildlife, it makes me feel like I’m having an Enid Blyton moment. (Aside: When I was in the Chilterns I also saw a pair of these bad boys- yes Green Woodpeckers- it was like seeing some birds of paradise.)
2. I finally decided to book a class at The School of Life- thank you Hattie & Ed!
3. Its Wednesday and therefore a Stylist day.
Today I really enjoyed the journey to a meeting, seeing East London slowly waking up and gearing up for the day; my enjoyment was compounded by not being squashed on the tube! Such luxury. I am also thankful that I get to meet young people that are on the brink of their university futures and can give them advice and just have a laugh with them. I also got a lovely voicemail from my friend about how much she is enjoying the blog and reminding me of what a positive thing it is. I was touched by her message and it is lovely to get feedback from people, especially when all the feedback has been positive.
Mostly though I am grateful for all the fantastic, lovely people I have in my life.
So I am in a much more chirpy mood this evening and I am grateful for BIG Cheetham hugs this morning; and the amazing team work of Charlotte, Hannah & Emily which meant that I met a target in record time. I am grateful for the hard work of our work experience student who helped me to prep materials for 130 students. I am happy that I borrowed from the library The Elfstones of Shannara and that I started to read it on the way home. Despite my tiredness I could feel that 24 year old tug pulling me into the story, I love it when I get that feeling, I hope it lasts. That’s all for this evening folks.
I spent a lovely day hanging out with Rachael & Sam: we ate cake; went shopping; Rachael cooked us tea (fajita’s for you food lovers); and we hung out in her front room watching X factor & TOWIE. What was I grateful for? I was grateful to be able to hang out with friends that I could watch low brow tv and not be judged for it! I’m not sure that being reassured that I am not the only singleton in the world is in the ethos of this blog but seeing as both Rachael and Sam are both lovely, interesting, good looking, intelligent and also single, means that I am not exactly as much as an anomaly as I sometimes feel.
I had a lovely, lovely Sunday. Two things stand out:
Firstly the feeling of being able to do a seat drop on the trampoline- unexpected agility from me and it was nice to have finally mastered it. Not to mention being the only adult present that could!
Secondly swinging on a swing with the sun on my face and a bright blue sky above me. Beautiful.
I could mention the beautiful countryside, eating sweet blackberries from the bush and eating a fantastic meal of cuttlefish with friends but then I would be labouring my point of how lovely a sunday it was.
I am grateful for friends that listen and friends that buy me books. I was at times feeling a little bit sorry for myself / angry today and I am very lucky to have lovely friends like Hannah to talk to. Also I started reading The Power on the way home which cheered me up and got me feeling more optimistic. So thank you Devina. You clearly know me better than I know myself!
So last night I was in the mood to drink more than I should and was determined not to spend an evening at home alone, so I called around my stalwart sociable friends Sam and Livia to see if they fancied a night drinking. Sam was busy but Livia, welcomed me to hers with open arms as always with the promise of food and good company. So I headed off to Kentish Town and I had a really lovely evening, which with hindsight was what I needed more than copious amounts of alcohol.
It is hard to put into words how spending time with certain people is an absolute tonic in itself. We talked about many things including feminist book club for which I have two new members on board. There was no rush, we just took our time, ate, drank, talked lots about different things and we did end up going out in the end for a few drinks and a dance and this morning I felt calm and relaxed. So I am thankful to having wonderful friends like Livia who unconsciously provide succour when I don’t even realise that I need it.